SECRET LOVE - REVEALED January 28 2019, 0 Comments

To burn with desire and keep quiet about it
is the greatest punishment we can bring on ourselves.    

 

Experiencing impossible love is stressful. We're motivated to savour and maximize positive emotions, and hide negative ones. So, why do we hide love? In a revealing article What does it hide, we're informed of the many reasons we choose to keep our love secret: disinterest in your gender, taboo, forbidden, illegal, religion, incapable of returning your affection, attachment to another, geography. And we begin to fantasize.

Secret love is chaos. The rules are different. We hide. A special language is created. We find the language to express this complexity in The Arts.

    

Rene Magritte   The Lovers                                                    Artist Unknown Stolen Kiss

Viewing the surrealistic painting by Rene Magritte 'The Lovers' can arouse complex emotions in us. We are invited to look closer for hidden meanings. The unknown creator of 'Stolen Kiss is surely conveying secret feelings of love.

 

     

Films about secret love such as Damage (1992) and Her (2013) remind us that some kinds love need to be protected in a secret world.  

 

 

Notes on A Scandal               You Don't Know Me

Although stories about secret, hidden, forbidden love saturates literature, Suzanne Gardner, in her article: Literary love affairs: 6 novels about forbidden love, tells us about six love stories. A New York Times Book Review article asks What Are the Last Literary Taboos?

 

Here's a heart breaking list of songs about secretly being in love. The seemingly simple words have power because we understand, without wanting to, the fragility of having a secret love. "You Don't Know Me" sung by Ray Charles, can break your heart.

 

One way to overcome the agony of being unable to express your love openly is to send a card, any time, but especially on Valentine's Day. During the 1700s in England, people started sending Valentine cards anonymously, simply signed "Your Valentine." Today 150 million Valentine's Day cards are sold. That's a whole lota love! These cards and others are now available on my website. It's never too late to express your love. Valentine's Day is coming soon...

Hasta luego amigos.

Val